I Am a Female Nerd. Apparently.
Marianne Cassidy thinks being a female nerd is trendy. Except when that’s all guys see in her. I am a female nerd. Apparently. I cannot tell you when it became trendy to be a nerd, but it definitely...
View ArticleA Ruined Body Is A Poem
Julie Gillis, on lust, bodies, aging and kindness. My ankles hurt each morning when I rise out of bed. I’ve been running more and more, perhaps in an attempt to stave off age, so that I can keep...
View ArticleHe Has A Gun
Jeremy Adam Smith’s son asked, “Did they get the bad guys?” Turns out, that was a really difficult question to answer. — 1. This summer, we moved back to San Francisco’s Mission district after a...
View ArticleWhy Was My Voice So Small?
An 8-year-old child of divorce, Thom wanted approval from his Scoutmaster. Instead, he was preyed on. Fifty years later, the effects of the abuse still loom large. In the world of little boys, the...
View ArticleBeing Guided By Our Babies Onto the Hidden Paths of Confidence
Our children have powerful ways to nurture our strength. Recently Matthew Salesses posted a beautiful article titled the Nature of Time and Babies. Matthew talked about the powerful impact our babies’...
View Article‘All I See Are White Men’: Confronting Racism in Silicon Valley
Eric Ries wants to talk about racism in the start-up world—without hand-wringing and with an eye towards achievable solutions. Originally posted as “Racism and Meritocracy” on TechCrunch. ♦◊♦ Unless...
View ArticleFinding Julian
Andrew Cotto loses his son in a museum—and finds a new approach to being a good dad. — Upon hearing that our second child would be a boy, I walked out of the doctor’s office, crossed 8th Avenue, and...
View ArticleEat Like a (Good) Man
A big part of being a Good Man in this weird, wild century involves not eating like an asshole. For me, there are two reasons for this: 1) Taking care of my body so I can stick around and pester my...
View ArticleMission Soccer
For the varsity soccer players at one San Francisco school, their team is their family, and futbol might be their only ticket to college. Jordan Conn shadowed the team last fall, as they defended...
View ArticleThe First Myth of Patriarchy: The Acorn on the Pillow
Tad Hargrave explains how patriarchy and masculinity are not the same thing, and privilege is not good for anyone. — I want you to imagine an acorn. We will come back to it soon. Because we are...
View ArticleFatherhood. By Any Means. Necessary.
Dad and oft-times contributor to The Good Men Project Jim Mitchem shared this video on Facebook. The last word of his status update says it all: In fact, we dare you to listen to the last line of...
View ArticleThe Pain of Being Poor: Masculinity and Manhood in a Recession
Yolo Akili brings us a reflective essay about unemployment and barber shop culture in black communities. —– I saw the pain in their eyes when I sat in the barbershop. The conversation was about money....
View ArticleYou Do the Math
RSVP for Intersectionality Calls —- I answered the phone, and it was among the worst kind of news you can get. “Are you the family of Joy Hickey?” “Yes.” She was my mother-in-law. “I’m sorry to be...
View ArticleLove Conquers All—Except, Maybe, the Bottle
Mika Doyle’s first love taught her that love is not enough to sustain a relationship. It was when I was 22 years old that I realized love isn’t enough to sustain a relationship. It wasn’t that I...
View ArticleDreams and Visions: On Being a Man After 3 Miscarriages in 20 Months
Dave Sanfacon remains a father and a husband through the agonizing nightmare and another attempt at kids. This is the second essay of a series. Dave’s first essay: “The Happy Hour Miscarriage in...
View ArticleA Passionate Rant About Oliver
Renee Suzanne Cole will do whatever it takes to give her children the opportunities they deserve. The photo above is my son, Oliver, a few hours after he was born and a few hours before he extubated...
View ArticleMy Dad, the UFO Expert
Fourth grade isn’t exactly a walk in the park, but for Evan Jacobs, having a dad who knew a lot about space aliens was the ticket to social acceptance. It’s been mostly downhill from there. ♦♦♦ My...
View ArticleWhen Playboy Bunnies Ruled
At 17, most girls are filling out college applications. I was nervously chewing my fingernails at an audition to become a Bunny at the New York Playboy Club. I had become the first emancipated minor...
View ArticleBad Dad
When Michael FitzGerald lost his job, he didn’t tell his kids. But they knew something was fishy. The other software developer and I followed the HR woman in and sat down. Our boss was behind his...
View ArticleChasing Beauty: An Addict’s Memoir
Lisa Hickey was beautiful twice, and she hated herself for it. — Here we go again, I think, as I impatiently wait for the hair straighter to warm up. I’ve washed my hair, deep conditioned it, shaved...
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